How conservative the Japanese people really is? And the government?

“None of my business” is the common attitude.

Yaoi

I sometimes feel people from the West are obsessed with those “gender” and “sex” things too much. Let’s think about something else sometimes. It’s unhealthy.

Does the Lil Wayne song ‘Lollipop’ refers to a Lollipop sweet or a metaphor?

Visual-kei

This is a very vague question. But considering the asker’s comment on Mr. Nakajima’s answer, your interest seems to be in sex-related matters (I don’t think it’s the only indicator of conservative/ progressive, though).

We don’t instantly tie it with sex when a father and his very young daughter are taking a bath together.

iFixit Says Switch 2 Is Probably Still Drift Prone - WIRED

How do you see these below?

In the old era, gay relationships were very common and were even praised among the privileged social classes, such as Samurai and monks.

It’s very common for a girl/ woman to ask a boy/ man to be her boyfriend.

Daniela Ruah Flaunts 'Legs for Miles and Miles' in 'Stunning' New Photo - Yahoo

They don’t have the value that “guys must be macho.”

They were very similar to the bromance of today but accompanied by sexual intercourse.

They don’t have the so-called “couple culture” seen in many Western countries.

What do dreams about dead people mean?

They don’t bring around their mates everywhere, which means they don’t worry about being single, gay, or whatever because no one cares about whom others are having/ not having sex with.

Moreover, buff guys are often avoided for their narcissism.

I’ve heard it’s always the male side that is expected to take a move in some countries. It’s not the case in Japan.

Margaret Cho says Ellen DeGeneres was 'not nice' to her for most of her career: 'It's so creepy and weird' - Entertainment Weekly

They don’t tease or beat up cross-dressed people on the road.